Traditionally the idea has been that taking a more accommodating stance will improve the relationship. But often, the pressure to accommodate each other can limit our growth and get in the way of true intimacy and satisfaction. 

If you want a relationship where you feel truly seen, heard, and valued as an individual first you have to become a whole person. And then you have to have the courage to be that whole person in the face of someone who might not like or agree with you.

That’s the basis of differentiation.

MFT student Brooke Rasmussen joins us on the Keep Talking Revolution podcast to talk about:

• What differentiation means in marriage and family systems
• Why a relatively peaceful marriage can feel stale or dead
• How facing your anxiety in your relationships and becoming stronger from it is the key to a satisfying and fulfilling marriage