Do your relationships feel like a win/win collaboration, or does it seem more like you’re keeping score and taking turns…or are you the one who’s constantly getting the short end of the stick so that everyone else can be happy?
When I quit my job to be a SAHM to two babies under two, I felt like I was in a real losing position in my marriage. Talking to my husband just turned into a fight. And often when I shared my unhappiness with another mom I was told, “This is just how it is. Being a mom is really hard.”
I was “crazy” enough to believe that being a mom with two babies under two shouldn’t be so much harder than being a dad with two babies under two.
And so I went on a journey to figure out how to create more balance, fairness, and collaboration in my marriage.
If you’re ready to make the shift to more win/win solutions in your relationships, here are a few tips to get back on track:
- Assume that you’ll have to do some negotiating and re-communicating
- Assume positive intent
- Assume that there is something you can do to honor each of your needs
