Even though most relational conflict is perpetual (69% according to Gottman’s research) there are times when problems can be solved and you can move on.
In this episode of Keep Talking Revolution, Josh Greep joins me to talk about recognizing solvable conflict and some tools to use for effective problem-solving.
The skills that work are:
- A softened startup – complain but don’t blame
- Making and receiving repair attempts – quickly get the conversation back on track
- Soothing yourself and each other – recognize and respond when flooding happens
- Compromising – yield without giving up your core needs
- Processing grievances so they don’t linger – fight fair & seek understanding
Listen to the episode for a great conversation about solving common partnership challenges and managing conflict that can’t be solved.
Related episodes you might want to listen to if you liked this episode…
- Four Destructive Relationship Habits (Gottman’s Four Horsemen)
The Worst Time for Conflict (Understanding Emotional Flooding)
- The Key To Deepening your Relationship (Principle 1 – Enhance your Love Maps)
- The Foundation of Affection (Principle 2 – Nurture your Fondness & Admiration)
- The Recipe for Connection (Principle 3 – Turn Toward Each Other Instead of Away)
- To Offer & Receive Influence (Principle 4 – Let Your Partner Influence You)
- The Misguided Goal of Conflict Resolution (Understanding Solvable & Perpetual Problems)