According to Dr. John Gottman, active listening isn’t enough to improve a struggling relationship. 

Since Mario and I have seen so many therapists (ahem…at least 6) in our 9-year marriage, we feel particularly qualified to take on these 7 marriage myths that Gottman has debunked. 

SPOILER ALERT – we kind of stink at active listening conversations. And Love Languages – we don’t practice those either.

Listen to our conversation about these 7 common relationship myths:

1. Personality problems ruin relationships
2. Common interests keep you together
3. You scratch my back and I’ll scratch yours (aka “the fairness trap”)
4. Avoiding conflict will ruin your relationship
5. Affairs are the root cause of divorce
6. Men are not biologically ‘built’ for monogamy
7. Men and women are from different planets