Before you start a win/win conversation, you need to know who your partner is and why he is responding the way he does.

Or at least be open to considering that the story you’re telling yourself might not be true.

Why is it so easy to skip this step?

As human beings, we are wired to protect ourselves and our views, even at the expense of our relationships.

When you approach a conversation with judgment or an unflattering view of your partner, you are almost guaranteed to fall into a dead-end trap and be disappointed with the outcome.

I first learned this principle when I ran a math tutoring center and I helped hundreds of students who struggled in school not only catch up and gain confidence in math, but also completely transform from difficult kids with behavior problems to cooperative and enthusiastic learners.

The same concept of seeing someone for who they are and accepting where they are right now applies to every relationship and can completely transform the relationship you have with your partner. 

This episode is part 2 of the three-step process I teach my clients in my 1:1 coaching program. You can solve problems, communicate more effectively, AND feel closer to your partner when you follow the steps outlined in this mini-series.